Hard Realities You Have To Accept To Be Successful

 Hard Realities You Have To Accept To Be Successful

Accept yourself
If you want to be successful you'll have to accept the truth about yourself no matter how awful it might be. Be honest with yourself about who you are and who you are not. If you're going to grow as a person, it's important to see unpleasant things for what they are.
If they hate you - they notice you
They say that if someone hates you they either see you as a threat or they want to be you. Hatred is the part of success, as much as jealousy is. Deal with it.
People judge
People will always judge. It's the part of our nature. We judge something we don't understand, something we don't accept or appreciate. If you think you're ready to step into the spotlight - be prepared for the people who will judge you whatever you do or don't do.

Respect yourself
You can't expect others to respect you if you have no self-esteem. When you believe in yourself, others tend to believe what you have to say. People see what you put out there. So don't ever lower your standards.
People who don't respect you don't deserve your time.
You only live once. Your time is precious, so why spend it on someone who treats you not the way you deserve. Don't let such people affect you. Do not waste your time and dignity to make someone appreciates you if they don't. Ignore them and strike them out of your life.

Treat good people you love
Whoever you are and whatever you do the only thing is more valuable than anything else. People who you love and who love you are the most precious. So they should always be a top priority. Show them your attitude and treat them well.

Confidence comes from the inside
Confidence is something you develop as you go through life and as you put yourself in new situations or new environments. Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud.

Never let others limit you
You are the only person to decide what you can and what you can't do. Don't let anyone limit you or put you in a box. Embrace your talents and strengths, and go beyond what is required. You are the only person to set your boundaries.

You need to feel pleasure from your work
If you are doing your job in order to receive only money out of it. You, firstly, won't be happy, and second - you won't succeed. If you are writing a book to receive money out of it - it will be a failure. Remember Aristotle: “Pleasure in the job puts perfection in the work.”

Chibok kidnapping survivors, now in Oregon boarding school, share their stories

Chibok kidnapping survivors, now in Oregon boarding school, share their stories........

Mercy, Deborah, Sarah, and Grace may seem like your typical Nigerian international high school students in the United States, but they are tied together by deep tragedy: they all survived the Boko Haram Chibok kidnapping in 2014. While they contemplated how to escape from the clutches of their nation’s homegrown terrorist group, millions around the world, including activists and world leaders, rallied around them with the hashtag #BringBackOurGirls. Through the to their new lives in America, replete with exposure to a wide variety of electronics and stores, and slowly recovering from the trauma of their kidnapping. Their lives are filled with uncertainty about their families, about Boko Haram, and about the people they’ve left behind. Supportive counselors and school administrators in Oregon are hoping that these girls get scholarships to college, but in the meantime, they are still navigating their new world.

efforts of a Virginia nonprofit called the Jubilee Campaign and Nigerian activists, these girls are now studying at a private boarding school in Oregon. They are adjusting 

Things You Should Never Wait For A Man To Do For You

 Ladies do you know, Doing things and more for yourself will boost your confidence and esteem. It portrays you as a woman who doesn’t need a man to validate her existence or fulfill her every desire.
A woman should be able to do at least 75% of so many things for herself. So, get off your ass, work hard and do things for yourself without waiting for any man to come your way before you can get them.
A man that is in love with you or admires you will always go an extra mile to prove this to you.

In fact, one of the ways to show that a man cares about you is when he invests in your future, cater to some of your needs and spoil you silly with gifts and treats.

However, it is common sense that you
don’t wait around for a man to answer to your every need. Apart from the fact that it makes you look cheap and “thirsty”, it chases good men from you.

So, it is advisable that you don’t expect a man to carry every of your burden.



Here are  things you can do for yourself:

 Take Yourself Out:Don’t be like those girls that wait for men to buy them the sharwama or pizza or fancy dish they are craving, take yourself out. You come off as ratchet and hungry when you can’t even afford to buy yourself a good meal.
So, take out cash from your purse, dress up
Give Yourself A Nice And Expensive Treat:
You don’t need to wait for a man to take you to a massage parlour or beauty shop, do those things yourself.
It doesn’t matter how much dent the money will cause to your purse afterwards, if you like going on a vacation, go on a vacation.
You don’t need to have a man in your life to visit places or get your nails done, give yourself a nice and expensive treat.


  Buy Gifts For Yourself:
Girl, if you need those shoes, buy them and whatever things you want.
Change your whole wardrobe if you want. Don’t wait for a man before you get new clothes or make-up or shoes or whatever it is you need.
If you want a new phone, buy it. It is a good attitude to spoil yourself with gifts by yourself; you often feel good afterwards.

Buy Your Own Airtime:
Some Nigerian girls feel it is a guy’s responsibility to recharge their phones
especially once the guy starts showing interest in them.
If you’re one of those people, please stop it.
You don’t need a man to buy you airtime. Take money from your purse and buy the recharge card you need for whatever purpose you need it.
Don’t expect a man to buy you recharge card to make calls, to buy data, to subscribe or for whatever.

 Compliment Yourself:
Before a man tells you you’re beautiful, make sure you have told yourself this a million and one times.
Always tell yourself good things about yourself. You don’t need to wait for a man to tell you how good you look, how intelligent you are, how smart you speak always make sure you tell yourself nice things.


 Doing these things and more for yourself will boost your confidence and esteem. It portrays you as a woman who doesn’t need a man to validate her existence or fulfill her every desire.

20 Things A Lady Should Know Before Dating

 1. Thou shall not date any guy out of
sympathy. It is not worth it. It has never
worth the pain. Ladies beware!
2. Thou shall not do revenge relationship
a.k.a let me show my boyfriend I can flirt
too. Ladies, that is inflicting more injuries
on yourself
3. Thou shall not depend on any man for
your daily needs. It has brought more
pains than joy to some ladies. Ladies,
please!
4. Thou shall never fight over a man. Such
men usually don’t have regard for ladies.
Ladies, you can ask around if you are in
doubt!
5. Thou shall not remain in a violent
relationship. You are supposed to be his
sweetheart not a punching bag. If he’s
looking for whom to punch, refer him to
Mike Tyson. Ladies, abi?

 6. Thou shall not give IT to him. If he
wants IT that desperately, he should put a
ring on it. Funny enough, men can wait if
they see your worth it. True!
7. Be bold when men toast you. Stop
cutting flowers or drawing circles with
your leg. Enjoy the ‘toasting’. Don’t forget
to pay attention to the pick up lines.
Some pick up lines can crack your ribs.
8. If you are not sure of your man
especially if the relationship is still new,
never take your girlfriend to his house or
give her his number or BB pin. Odikwa
very risky!
9. As soon as you can, let your man show
his face to your people. Your sister or
brother or mother. This is very key.
10. Material possessions are good but
never let them be the number one factor
in choosing a man.
11. Do not forget the golden rule. Always
sit like a woman. Some men act like
babies when a woman is not properly
seated. You know what I mean!
12. Never think you can trap a man with
good sex. Fou fou fou… foul! It is an
aberration.
13. Be good to men but be firm. Yes firm
but don’t scare them away.
14. Men are not in short supply. Don’t let
them deceive you. Don’t believe anything
in the contrary. Don’t be stampeded into
a relationship.
15. If your purpose for financing a man is
to keep him, that could be a big mistake.
Finance for the right reasons.
16. Men are not the same. Don’t listen to
“men are the same jare!” It’s a lie! How
many men have you met out of about six
billion people on earth? You see am nau,
abi?
17. Adventures can be sweet. However,
never embark on a long trip to meet a
man without informing someone. Never!
18. Guys have a way of saying “don’t let
anybody know about us yet.” If the
relationship is up to three months and
counting,somebody should know about it
jor! Better things, they no dey hide am.
19. They say good girls love bad boys. And
as a good girl, you are looking for a bad
boy to love? OYO for you! Let bad girls
love bad boys and good girls love good
boys. Nobody should use your head to
catch a bullet.
20. Enjoy being single. It does not last
forever.

Relationship rules....

Relationship rules....

 

So Was it pregnancy?

Hmmm................ Queen B Big Announcement,,....




Well, she’s not pregnant again and there isn’t a new digital drop to stop the world.

Not exactly earth-shattering news. Beyonce hyped a big announcement to be made on Good Morning America on Monday, June 8, releasing a teaser video this past weekend and getting fans talking about just what the news might be.

The promotional clip, which made its way online in the late hours of Sunday evening, showed Beyonce telling a camera, "This is something I have to share with everyone." The video inspired speculation that Queen Bey was finally releasing a studio album with her husband Jay Z, or announcing that she was pregnant again, making 3-year-old daughter Blue Ivy a big sister.

 "I am not naturally the thinnest woman," she said in the recorded video on the morning show. "I have curves, I'm proud of my curves. I have struggled since a young age with diets. Finding something that actually works, that actually keeps the weight off has been difficult for me."

Would you date a guy whose best friend is a woman?

Believe it or not, men who have female best friends make far better partners. Laura Shortridge tells us why. 

“Would you be OK with your man having close female friends?”



A Facebook friend asked this question the other day, and a lot of women said no, they wouldn’t be comfortable with this.
I know many men feel the same about their girlfriends or wives having close male friends. It’s a fairly typical attitude found in heterosexual couples.
I understand the feelings behind this. No one wants to have the worry that their significant other is going to cheat on them. If your boyfriend likes girls, and you’re the only girl he spends any significant time with, then that pretty much means he’s safely yours, right?
Well, no, not really.
I think that not only should we be OK with our partners having close friends who are the same gender as us, it’s something we should want. In other words, I prefer to date men who have close female friends.See, when a man has close female friends as well as close male friends, it means a few things.
First, how sad must your relationship be if your trust in your significant other is so flimsy that you believe the only way to keep them from not cheating on you is to keep them away from anyone they might potentially find sexually attractive?
Think about it. If the only thing that’s stopping your boyfriend from cheating on you is he hasn’t been given the opportunity, then you’re in a pretty awful relationship that’s guaranteed to end badly.

The fact is, if your boyfriend is going to cheat on you, it’s going to happen sooner or later. I’d rather date a guy who’s trustworthy.
Of course, you might just think no guys at all can be trusted to be left alone with women without having sex with them, or that no single women can be trusted to be left alone with taken men without having sex with them. If that’s really how you see the world then I just kinda feel a little sorry for you.
Second, it means, or should mean if he’s not a hypocrite, that he will be comfortable with you having close male friends, and my friends are far too important for me to abandon or avoid some of them just because they’re male.